Hey, being a single mum is hard, I don’t know a single, single mum who would tell you it is a walk in the park! But, it doesn’t have to be all about pushing through and living in survival mode! It is possible to live a life full of abundance and joy, even as a single mum. It is possible to romance your life and not dread it everyday! So if you are feeling like you are in the trenches of single parenthood and want to start living your best life, then keep reading to find out how you can create an abundant life as a single mum!

I am not going to lie and tell you it is easy to make the switch from a negative mindset, to an abundant mindset, but with these simple yet powerful hacks, I promise you will go from Surviving to Thriving in no time!

The Attitude Of Gratitude

Start each day with gratitude! It may be difficult at first, you may think that you have very little to be grateful for! I know, it can feel that way! I have had a gratitude practice in place for over a year now, and occasionally I do struggle if I am going through a particularly difficult time.

But start small. Every morning grab your journal and write out just Three things you are grateful for… they can be literally anything! Think about your daily life. I guarantee you there are some things that you are grateful for, like Your coffee, your warm bed, your car, your kids, your home, the guy who always smiles at you in the corner shop- anything!

And as you go on, you are guaranteed to find lots of little things to be grateful for- after all gratitude is a breeding ground for positivity and abundance. the more you are grateful for, the more good things will appear!

And as  a little bonus- I have tried this with my teens- start a gratitude jar with the kids! Help them to spot little things to be grateful for in their everyday lives too and before you know it your home will be filled with positive thoughts and gratitude!

Make Yourself A Priority

I know, you are probably sick of me (and everyone else) banging on about self care and making yourself a priority! It is hard as a single mum to actually think about your own needs!

But it is so, so necessary for you and everyone else, that you schedule at least one non-negotiable “me Time” activity into your daily routine!

It does not need to be anything that takes too much time if you really, really struggle to get any alone time- I have some great self-care ideas for single mums here– they are simple, cheap and non time consuming!

But just promise me that you will take a few minutes every day for yourself. Whether it is a bubble bath, skincare routine, reading, or taking a walk- do something for you! You are worth it, and you will begin to feel the joy!

Shift your Money Mindset

Single parenting is hard, but single parenting without financial stability is 10 times harder! Feeling abundant is incredibly difficult when you are literally scraping up the pennies to feed to kids or put money on the electric meter- trust me, I know!

I also know how bloody hard it is to get out of a lack mentality when it comes to money and finances. But it isn’t impossible!

Look out for an upcoming post on how to take control of your finances as a single mum- but for now I want you to start shifting that money mindset around! 

Start by appreciating and celebrating the shit out of the money you already have and the things that it pays for! I know it can seem difficult, but trust me, once your mindset changes, so will your circumstances eventually!

Celebrate that you managed to save a tenner this week, Paid your rent on time, Had enough to feed the kids for the week- celebrate, celebrate, celebrate! 

Just like with gratitude, when we start to celebrate the money we have rather than dwell on the things we don’t, we start to create a much more positive mindset and abundant outlook on life!

Create a Bucket List Of Joy

I love doing this! Create a list of all the things that you can do in 10 minutes or less that bring out the joy in you!

Think of it as a little cheat sheet to get back to joy when life is feeling heavy! Another thing you can do, is use this as a weekly or monthly bucket list- so tick one off every day to make sure you get in those little moments of joy everyday!

Here are a few ideas of what you could put on your list- but remember joy means something different for everyone, so make sure you add what feels good to you!

• Dance around your kitchen to some upbeat tunes
• Yoga session
• Meditation
• Read a chapter of a book
• Call a friend
• Journal
• Take a nap
• Get dressed up
• Go for a walk
• Go for a run

Create A Joyful Morning routine

Try to always start your day off with abundance and joy! I know this may be hard when you have young kids and battling with sleepless nights and early risers, but creating a quick morning routine that sets the tone for an abundant day will really help you to switch into a better mindset.

It doesn’t need to be long winded and you don’t have to get up earlier if that doesn’t work for you.

But just adding in a few activities that bring joy, such as gratitude journaling, saying affirmations whilst you do your makeup, or even making sure you get showered and dressed up for the day regardless of what you have planned can make a huge difference!

Declutter Your Home To Amplify Your Energy

A messy and untidy home doesn’t feel very abundant does it? But Keeping your home clean and tidy when you have toddlers (or teenagers for that matter) can feel like an uphill battle! The easiest way to combat this is to try to declutter regularly.

Getting rid of anything that is cluttering up your space, not only helps to keep the kid mess under control, but decluttering also helps to clear stuck and stagnant energy, which in turn makes way for new and vibrant energy to enter!

And that is what we want after all isn’t it? A lighter, more joyful home!

Manifest Your Perfect Reality

What does an abundant life mean to you? I have a little exercise for you. I want you to write out exactly what abundance means to you.

Is it more money, more free time, more love? Write down a day in your life as though you already have these things, get specific with exactly what you want from life, and visualise it daily. Also, creating a vision board for this can really help! 

If this is the first time you have heard of manifestation or the law of attraction- where have you been?! Honestly, it is the best thing I have discovered- and whilst it takes a little bit of practice and belief, I truly believe it is the answer to living your most abundant and joyous life. I am no manifestation expert, so I will leave it to the professionals to explain it properly- Emma Mumford is a perfect start!

Surround Yourself With The Right People

It is a known fact that being a single mum is so much more joyous when you are surrounded by a supportive community, and The type of people you surround yourself with is so important.

So make sure that your tribe is full of people who lift you up, have your back, and make your life feel great! This goes for friends, family, or even your online communities and the accounts you follow on social media.

If there is anything in your community that puts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself or unhealthily jealous, then cut it out!

Having the right friends and support system is absolutely vital if you want to live an abundant and joyous life as a single mum!

Celebrate The Everyday

Celebrate absolutely everything! Again, just as with gratitude, celebration breeds more things to celebrate. So start celebrating all the little wins and good things that happen- even if they don’t seem like much, find any excuse to celebrate! 

Got through a day without crying? Celebrate! 

The kids went to sleep without a fuss? Celebrate! 

Got to Friday without killing anyone? Celebrate!

And if you achieve something bigger, then celebrate that even more!

Completed your degree? Got a job promotion? Reached your saving goal?

As single mums, we often think that these things aren’t worth celebrating because people achieve these all the time- But you have achieved this whilst doing one of the most difficult jobs in the world- Single parenting!

Living An Abundant Life As A Single Mum

Living an abundant life as a single mum doesn’t necessarily mean that all of a sudden everything is going to be perfect and fall into place.

No, it means enjoying the life you have now, and knowing that more good things are on the way!